Saturday 23 November 2013
Tuesday 27 August 2013
To be killed or fattened?
Looks matter. I build my work around this fact. The way we look on the outside greatly impacts the way people see us, treat us, the way we behave, how we socialise, the groups we get into, etc. But how much is too much? At which point is it not just a matter of socialization, and becomes shallowness?
I have very recently been diagnosed with a condition that not only brings back the tortuous acne of my teenage years, but makes me put on weight too. Even better news is that the treatment for it also causes weight gain! Before asking about the dangers or consequences of this condition I am literally traumatised about gaining weight! I am researching more than I did on my thesis about how I can live through this without getting fat. Only meeting brick walls, I want to crumble into a ball and hide from the world.
A bit dramatic? I know. But I am not exaggerating. I don't want to eat. I don't even want to watch other people eat. I'm looking at recent pictures of myself in disgust. Helpless and hopeless. I have even considered not undergoing the treatment!
Am I crazy? You would think so, but, No. There are so many women who think just like this. There are people who never leave the house without makeup. There are girls who throw up after lunch to save themselves from imperfection.
I consider myself to be relatively intelligent. So for someone like me to be absolutely overwhelmed with anxiety over a matter of appearance, well, it scares me. I think about the more impressionable young women who cause themselves physical harm to protect from ugliness. You might be tempted to call these girls dumb, stupid or silly, but think about where it comes from. There must be some small actions you do that may be signs of your potential obsession with appearance. Think about it. When you wake up in the morning, do you first run to the mirror? Do you constantly suck in your stomach in public? What do you spend most of your time talking about?
Be aware of your level of shallowness. Don't let it overcome you.
I have very recently been diagnosed with a condition that not only brings back the tortuous acne of my teenage years, but makes me put on weight too. Even better news is that the treatment for it also causes weight gain! Before asking about the dangers or consequences of this condition I am literally traumatised about gaining weight! I am researching more than I did on my thesis about how I can live through this without getting fat. Only meeting brick walls, I want to crumble into a ball and hide from the world.
A bit dramatic? I know. But I am not exaggerating. I don't want to eat. I don't even want to watch other people eat. I'm looking at recent pictures of myself in disgust. Helpless and hopeless. I have even considered not undergoing the treatment!
Am I crazy? You would think so, but, No. There are so many women who think just like this. There are people who never leave the house without makeup. There are girls who throw up after lunch to save themselves from imperfection.
I consider myself to be relatively intelligent. So for someone like me to be absolutely overwhelmed with anxiety over a matter of appearance, well, it scares me. I think about the more impressionable young women who cause themselves physical harm to protect from ugliness. You might be tempted to call these girls dumb, stupid or silly, but think about where it comes from. There must be some small actions you do that may be signs of your potential obsession with appearance. Think about it. When you wake up in the morning, do you first run to the mirror? Do you constantly suck in your stomach in public? What do you spend most of your time talking about?
Be aware of your level of shallowness. Don't let it overcome you.
Wednesday 10 July 2013
The Courageous Cut
I have built my business around the fact that people are judged by what they look like. Even the way we see ourselves is affected by the way we look on the outside. I help women celebrate themselves- when they can love what they see in the mirror it's almost like they give themselves permission to love what's inside too! Recently I realised just how serious is the matter of appearance. There is a tangible fear attached to not being pretty! A FEAR.
I recently cut my hair. Short. I didn't do it because of any reason further than that I love short hair, and I wanted a change that would by more stylish and modern.The response to my new look was surprisingly overwhelming! People that I don't even know (but who recognise me from the blog) have stopped me to comment about it! Even more, have been opinions asserted about whether it was a good choice or not, and most importantly noted, is that I must be so brave to have done it! Interesting. Cutting my hair is an act of valour, because the potential negative consequence would be that it looks ugly? Think about the term "fashion risk". Risk? The same term that would be used to describe the actions of a tightrope walker, or a gambler or a deep sea diver-- cutting my hair short is a risk- a matter of life and death... no worse, a matter of like and hate.
While I know and appreciate that it is human nature to be concerned with appearances, am I still shocked and a bit disappointed by how strongly we hold on to our looks, because of the trepidation of what others may think about us. Someone forcibly asserted that I grow back my hair because my boyfriend will leave me. Their actual words? "May I strongly recommend that you grow your hair back? [Everybody] prefers long hair" Another response from a couple people has been that I have such nice hair and why would I cut it; a woman's beauty is her hair. My favourite might be that brides cannot have short hair so now I can't get engaged nor married until it grows back. Listen, true beauty starts from inside.You can be a nasty bitch with flowing locks of gold and look ugly as fuck to the people around you. I think of women who have lost their hair during Chemo therapy, and no woman is more beautiful to me than they are. I think about the girls who donate their ponytails to Locks of Love, and the mothers who cut their hair to show support to their daughters who are bald due to illness or surgery. And on a more shallow note, think about Halle Berry!
Some fab Shorties:
Do not be paralysed with anxiety over how others may judge you. And to the judges, unless you have something nice to say, don't say anything at all, especially if your opinion was not requested. I look forward to seeing more women be bold about their choices! Own who you are and reflect that fabulous biatch you are on the inside. The only person you need to please is yourself!
I recently cut my hair. Short. I didn't do it because of any reason further than that I love short hair, and I wanted a change that would by more stylish and modern.The response to my new look was surprisingly overwhelming! People that I don't even know (but who recognise me from the blog) have stopped me to comment about it! Even more, have been opinions asserted about whether it was a good choice or not, and most importantly noted, is that I must be so brave to have done it! Interesting. Cutting my hair is an act of valour, because the potential negative consequence would be that it looks ugly? Think about the term "fashion risk". Risk? The same term that would be used to describe the actions of a tightrope walker, or a gambler or a deep sea diver-- cutting my hair short is a risk- a matter of life and death... no worse, a matter of like and hate.
Some fab Shorties:
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| This is My Cousin, Marsha; the Fiercest of them all! |
Do not be paralysed with anxiety over how others may judge you. And to the judges, unless you have something nice to say, don't say anything at all, especially if your opinion was not requested. I look forward to seeing more women be bold about their choices! Own who you are and reflect that fabulous biatch you are on the inside. The only person you need to please is yourself!
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| My controversial new hair |
"In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different" Coco Chanel
Tuesday 11 June 2013
The Ripple Effect: Candice's Story
So often we look at people's success and convince ourselves that it was handed to them. The truth is, good things do not just magically manifest themselves. Whether the journey is full of potholes, or smooth as freshly laid asphalt, it is still a journey. Every accomplishment whether big or small has come out of effort, time and most importantly; a thought.
The Ripple Effect is a concept that I have been looking at in the lives of many people whom I admire. Just like a single droplet can generate waves in an expansive pool, so too can a simple thought channel the unraveling of fruition. Everything we see, touch, feel, taste or experience, first started as an idea.
I sat down with Candice Baccus; Owner of Simply runway one afternoon, where she was telling me of all these big plans to involve more Trinidad Based Designers in her store. She kept throwing idea after idea to me, edifying even grander plans as I put in my two cents. Just over coffee, her amazing and inspiring vision was already beginning to actualise.
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The story of Simply Runway wasn't so simple as I'm sure it appears sometimes. After investing all of their savings, and not being able to afford a space,Candice and her Husband, Issac almost had to turn away from their plans. ALMOST. Now after enjoying three years of serving an ever-growing and faithful clientele, they have recently opened a second branch, and have launched a huge initiative for local fashion, where they have gotten the support of FATT, CAFD, renowned designers and other important players in the industry. Life, and in this case, business, occur just as she says in the clip: through "Lucky breaks and perfect timing". There are amazing things waiting to happen to you, but you need to put in the ground work and be prepared not only to be able to deal with them, but to also see them.
If there is one thing I hope you take away from her story, is that whatever you are dreaming of doing or becoming, it is possible. Don't be paralysed by your fears. Stop telling yourself you are too young, too shy or aren't talented enough. Do your research and have the confidence to just go for it. What's the worst that could happen? What do you have to lose? Really , think about it. What will you lose? It just takes one droplet. Rides the waves and see where you end up.
The Ripple Effect is a concept that I have been looking at in the lives of many people whom I admire. Just like a single droplet can generate waves in an expansive pool, so too can a simple thought channel the unraveling of fruition. Everything we see, touch, feel, taste or experience, first started as an idea.
I sat down with Candice Baccus; Owner of Simply runway one afternoon, where she was telling me of all these big plans to involve more Trinidad Based Designers in her store. She kept throwing idea after idea to me, edifying even grander plans as I put in my two cents. Just over coffee, her amazing and inspiring vision was already beginning to actualise.
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The story of Simply Runway wasn't so simple as I'm sure it appears sometimes. After investing all of their savings, and not being able to afford a space,Candice and her Husband, Issac almost had to turn away from their plans. ALMOST. Now after enjoying three years of serving an ever-growing and faithful clientele, they have recently opened a second branch, and have launched a huge initiative for local fashion, where they have gotten the support of FATT, CAFD, renowned designers and other important players in the industry. Life, and in this case, business, occur just as she says in the clip: through "Lucky breaks and perfect timing". There are amazing things waiting to happen to you, but you need to put in the ground work and be prepared not only to be able to deal with them, but to also see them.
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| At Simply Runway Accents |
If there is one thing I hope you take away from her story, is that whatever you are dreaming of doing or becoming, it is possible. Don't be paralysed by your fears. Stop telling yourself you are too young, too shy or aren't talented enough. Do your research and have the confidence to just go for it. What's the worst that could happen? What do you have to lose? Really , think about it. What will you lose? It just takes one droplet. Rides the waves and see where you end up.
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| Simply Runway Accents |
Video by Normal Normal Films
Photos of Simply Runway Accents Launch by Damian Luk Pat
Simply Runway and the new branch Simply Runway Accents are both located at Grand Bazaar
Tuesday 23 April 2013
Splurge vs steals: My picks for the best alternatives to pricey makeup
The first step to building great style is knowing and loving who you are; in whatever shape, size, colour or personality. It your blueprint for design, before any building can take place. You must first know who you are, in order to go about finding the right tools and equipment to build around your personal style.
3. We are all on the search for lipstick with staying power. No one likes to see their mouth left behind on a glass, or worse; running down their chin! While I was in UWI I discovered L'oreal Infallible Lipgloss, and over the years I experimented with all sorts of other stuff, but I would always go back to the Infallible! The first one I ever tried, has always been my favourite; Undeniable Mauve. Recently at a Bridal Shower, I won in a game, an Infallible Lipstick in a bright Coral Colour, which is now competing with my first love though! I just love how these lipsticks stay on through meals and constant chatting! Even better is the number of different colours to choose from! It seems endless.
4. I have tried a tonne of tinted moisurisers, but none took me through the day without looking like I rubbed my face on a bag of phoulorie. I had been on the look out for something easy as a rub-on cream, that provided some sort of coverage, but would keep me from being shiny. I experimented with the most celebrated tinted moisturiser; Laura Mercier, as well as Dior (which looks fab in the first hour, but doesn't go further than that) and some others. They weren't quite doing it for me. My cousin suggested I try Garnier's Skin Renew BB Cream, and upon taking that advice, I must say I've found it! I love that BB creams have added benefits for the skin, so I feel really good about putting it on. The coverage is pretty sheer, so I tend to add my concealer of choice under my eyes and on my pesky post-acne demons. Under some sheer mineral powder, this BB Cream is fantastic for day.
The foundation to be laid after this, is your body. Take care and nurture yourself with luxurious-feeling products. Take long baths. Exfoliate. Cleanse, tone, moisturise and photo-protect. Exercise. Eat well. You know what to do!
I definitely choose to invest in professional hair and makeup products. No matter how fab the outfit is- the power of a Bad Hair Day cannot be overcome. However, these things can get pretty pricey, and I'm always on the look out for less expensive alternatives. I have already found some makeup and hair products and tools that I would even choose instead of the bank-breakers. Here's what I love so far!
1. While running to the Guardian building for our CNC3 interview on a hot Monday morning, my Co-host for "Own you Beauty, Power and Magic", Sacha, was stunned that my face remained matte and fresh. She on the other hand likened herself to a Saheena! (I didn't say it eh- she did. I didn't think she was quite at Saheena-status yet.) I whipped out my secret for staying dry! I know what you're thinking- it has to be the MAC Oil Control Lotion, right? While I think that MAC has an amazing product, L'oreal's Translucide Powder over my liquid foundation, seems to seal in all moisture, leaving me fresh-faced all day! Best part is, I got it at a nearby SuperPharm for under TT$100!
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| Came home after a loooong day, and my skin still looked as fresh as when I left the house hours before! |
2. I firmly believe in having great makeup-applying tools! I searched long and hard for affordable yet quality brushes, and often found myself spending hundreds on each brush since the cheaper ones basically SUCKED. The bristles were either too loosely packed and would fall out on my face, or they simply didn't feel good on my skin. I had decided that brushes would be one of those things that I had no choice but to splurge on, and then Eco Tools came into my life! Not only are these brushes (case and all) made from natural (bamboo) or recycled materials, but they feel amazingly soft, and apply makeup just as well as any professional brush would! I got all mine at SuperPharm, but I see that you can order from their website too! I see a whole bunch of brushes that I will soon be adding to my list at www.ecotools.com Here are some of the ones I use:
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| My First EcoTools Purchase- No turning back now! |
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| My Latest EcoTools Purchase |
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| Most Convenient: Retractable Kabuki Brush |
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| First Love: Undeniable Mauve |
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| Charismatic Coral |
4. I have tried a tonne of tinted moisurisers, but none took me through the day without looking like I rubbed my face on a bag of phoulorie. I had been on the look out for something easy as a rub-on cream, that provided some sort of coverage, but would keep me from being shiny. I experimented with the most celebrated tinted moisturiser; Laura Mercier, as well as Dior (which looks fab in the first hour, but doesn't go further than that) and some others. They weren't quite doing it for me. My cousin suggested I try Garnier's Skin Renew BB Cream, and upon taking that advice, I must say I've found it! I love that BB creams have added benefits for the skin, so I feel really good about putting it on. The coverage is pretty sheer, so I tend to add my concealer of choice under my eyes and on my pesky post-acne demons. Under some sheer mineral powder, this BB Cream is fantastic for day.
Wednesday 3 April 2013
Making Love
It has been labelled as a cultural flaw, that Trinidadians are not the most supportive bunch. We are excited about bacchanal and corruption. Our newspapers are slathered with sensationalist pictures and headlines about the demise of the nation and its leaders.We cheer at others' failure. We are hesitant to trust- In fact we think something is wrong with anyone who trusts at all. We mock anyone who attempts to do anything out-of-the-box,
...or so I thought.
I have been pleasantly surprised by a level of love and kindness by my fellow Trinidadian women.
I have always felt somewhat out of place. I never really jumped on any bandwagon growing up. As a matter of fact, I think I rebelled at the norm intentionally, because I never wanted to conform to anything. In a High School where the Science classes were so full that they had to be divided into two, and every child dreamed of the title "Dr", I was sketching gowns, and looking to follow in Diane Hunt's footsteps. My passion for fashion and the longing to create beauty, led me to the heart of it all- women.
It is because of women and their desire to be forever changing and evolving, that the fashion industry has thrived. I have been surrounded by a plethora of amazing and influential women throughout my life, and today I am proud to be a part of a sisterhood that works to fire up a revolution with new ideas and positive resonance. When I made fashion fashion my full-time career, I was met with unexpected love and support. I was so used to people questioning me about the frivolity of it all, and wondering how I could possibly disregard all my years of formal education to do something so unheard of in this culture! Now to have people in my corner, congratulating me for taking these risks and offering kudos-- well I didn't see that one coming.
Do you believe in "The Secret"? That what we put into the Universe would return to us? Well my genuine cheer-leading for the women around me has come back. I have met some amazing people in the past few years. I feel like I have known them my whole life, and that I love them like they are my own real sisters. In a society where courtesy and patience aren't common, gestures of generosity are a big deal. These women have far surpassed any expectation I have had for our relationships, and I cannot truly express how blessed I feel to have them in my life.
Very recently I discovered that a group of young women (that I have seen grow up before my eyes) has gotten together to start a non-profit campaign, "The Fairy Godmother Project", to donate graduation dresses to high school girls! Only the other day did I realise that my friend's sister is the founder Studio W; a place where women can go to strengthen their minds and bodies. Without having to ask twice, amazingly selfless ladies have been using their own time and resources to help me have a truly special event on April 13. So if you are a little bit cynical (like me) stop and look around at the magically giving people that surround you. There are people who will root for you like their life depended on it. There are people who genuinely believe in you and want to see you take on the world with success. There are people who emanate real love, even for a stranger.
So to these special ladies, I just felt to write tonight, "to put down in words, how wonderful life is, now you're in the world"
...or so I thought.
I have been pleasantly surprised by a level of love and kindness by my fellow Trinidadian women.
I have always felt somewhat out of place. I never really jumped on any bandwagon growing up. As a matter of fact, I think I rebelled at the norm intentionally, because I never wanted to conform to anything. In a High School where the Science classes were so full that they had to be divided into two, and every child dreamed of the title "Dr", I was sketching gowns, and looking to follow in Diane Hunt's footsteps. My passion for fashion and the longing to create beauty, led me to the heart of it all- women.
It is because of women and their desire to be forever changing and evolving, that the fashion industry has thrived. I have been surrounded by a plethora of amazing and influential women throughout my life, and today I am proud to be a part of a sisterhood that works to fire up a revolution with new ideas and positive resonance. When I made fashion fashion my full-time career, I was met with unexpected love and support. I was so used to people questioning me about the frivolity of it all, and wondering how I could possibly disregard all my years of formal education to do something so unheard of in this culture! Now to have people in my corner, congratulating me for taking these risks and offering kudos-- well I didn't see that one coming.
Do you believe in "The Secret"? That what we put into the Universe would return to us? Well my genuine cheer-leading for the women around me has come back. I have met some amazing people in the past few years. I feel like I have known them my whole life, and that I love them like they are my own real sisters. In a society where courtesy and patience aren't common, gestures of generosity are a big deal. These women have far surpassed any expectation I have had for our relationships, and I cannot truly express how blessed I feel to have them in my life.
Very recently I discovered that a group of young women (that I have seen grow up before my eyes) has gotten together to start a non-profit campaign, "The Fairy Godmother Project", to donate graduation dresses to high school girls! Only the other day did I realise that my friend's sister is the founder Studio W; a place where women can go to strengthen their minds and bodies. Without having to ask twice, amazingly selfless ladies have been using their own time and resources to help me have a truly special event on April 13. So if you are a little bit cynical (like me) stop and look around at the magically giving people that surround you. There are people who will root for you like their life depended on it. There are people who genuinely believe in you and want to see you take on the world with success. There are people who emanate real love, even for a stranger.
So to these special ladies, I just felt to write tonight, "to put down in words, how wonderful life is, now you're in the world"
Friday 22 March 2013
Thank you disillusionment
All those motivational quotes we pin, and songs we echo in our cars, the adages of generations past, the lingering words of your mother - They all arrive at one central idea- that giving gratitude for daily mercies and lifelong blessings is the root to all beauty and happiness.
I am quick to complain about so much. I worry about my dreams not being met. I constantly calculate my income to bills ratio with anxiety and frustration. Sometimes it takes another's humble surroundings to really give you that slap of reality. I have a home to go to; one that I own. I have a toilet and running water so that I need not relieve myself in the mud. I am able to purchase food when there isn't a home cooked meal on my stove. I had the opportunity to receive a high-class education. I was able to quit my job and pursue my dream career. I have parents who have given me everything without the expectation of anything being returned. It does not always click to me that there are thousands of people living right next to me who look to these basic abilities as though they are unreachable.
There is a very special woman who is currently going through a seriously trying time in her life. I have never met someone so loving and kind and thoughtful and bright and honest and gentle-- and today I went to her home. If such a grateful and beautiful soul could survive in such surroundings, then I have no excuses. Our hardships make us stronger and better people. Instead of complaining about them we should be grateful to have overcome them and look back with appreciation.
Alanis was on to something- One of the most beautifully written songs.
"How bout getting off these antibiotics?
How bout stopping eating when I’m full up?
How bout them transparent dangling carrots?
How bout that ever elusive "Could have"?
Thank you India.
Thank you terror.
Thank you disillusionment.
Thank you frailty.
Thank you consequence.
Thank you, thank you silence.
How bout me not blaming you for everything?
How bout me enjoying the moment for once?
How bout how good it feels to finally forgive you?
How bout grieving it all one at a time ?
The moment I let go of it was the moment
I got more than I could handle.
The moment I jumped off of it
was the moment I touched down.
How bout no longer being masochistic?
How bout remembering your divinity?
How bout unabashedly bawling your eyes out?
How bout not equating death with stopping?
Thank you India.
Thank you providence.
Thank you disillusionment.
Thank you nothingness.
Thank you clarity.
Thank you thank you silence."
I am quick to complain about so much. I worry about my dreams not being met. I constantly calculate my income to bills ratio with anxiety and frustration. Sometimes it takes another's humble surroundings to really give you that slap of reality. I have a home to go to; one that I own. I have a toilet and running water so that I need not relieve myself in the mud. I am able to purchase food when there isn't a home cooked meal on my stove. I had the opportunity to receive a high-class education. I was able to quit my job and pursue my dream career. I have parents who have given me everything without the expectation of anything being returned. It does not always click to me that there are thousands of people living right next to me who look to these basic abilities as though they are unreachable.
There is a very special woman who is currently going through a seriously trying time in her life. I have never met someone so loving and kind and thoughtful and bright and honest and gentle-- and today I went to her home. If such a grateful and beautiful soul could survive in such surroundings, then I have no excuses. Our hardships make us stronger and better people. Instead of complaining about them we should be grateful to have overcome them and look back with appreciation.
Alanis was on to something- One of the most beautifully written songs.
"How bout getting off these antibiotics?
How bout stopping eating when I’m full up?
How bout them transparent dangling carrots?
How bout that ever elusive "Could have"?
Thank you India.
Thank you terror.
Thank you disillusionment.
Thank you frailty.
Thank you consequence.
Thank you, thank you silence.
How bout me not blaming you for everything?
How bout me enjoying the moment for once?
How bout how good it feels to finally forgive you?
How bout grieving it all one at a time ?
The moment I let go of it was the moment
I got more than I could handle.
The moment I jumped off of it
was the moment I touched down.
How bout no longer being masochistic?
How bout remembering your divinity?
How bout unabashedly bawling your eyes out?
How bout not equating death with stopping?
Thank you India.
Thank you providence.
Thank you disillusionment.
Thank you nothingness.
Thank you clarity.
Thank you thank you silence."
Monday 18 March 2013
Wednesday 6 March 2013
Smile for your own good!
I came across a great article online, written by Mark Stibich Ph.D
Thought I would share with you!
1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive
We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away -- but a smile draws them in (avoid these smile aging habits to keep your smile looking great).
2. Smiling Changes Our Mood
Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.3. Smiling Is Contagious
When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.4. Smiling Relieves Stress
Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger
The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive
Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.Thursday 28 February 2013
Swinging Out
Sometimes life just sucks.
We post all these humorous quotes about people feeling beat up or let down, and we laugh, because we relate and the irony is just plain funny. My Facebook NewsFeed is ALWAYS riddled with "I hate Monday" jokes or "People are annoying" satire. And.. most of the time I tend to agree with the cynicism. And I click the "Share" button. I literally share my bitterness. Misery does love its company.
Recently I have been caught in one hell of a rut. I've been a banshee to my boyfriend, and been unavailable to my family, because I felt sad. I am a people-pleaser. I need to do everything right, and for everyone to like it. Too bad for me, I was challenged. I was working for someone who I could not make happy. I was beyond frustrated. I would grit my teeth and smile despite the many shut-downs and disrespectful dismissals. Even though I feel like I bent over and compromised my own creativity and who I am just to suit her requests, she could not be satisfied. When I decided to resign, she called me a failure.
Now, I don't think I'm a failure, but I let her get to me.. for a minute.
Now this is magic: Sacha Lalla, (my dear friend and personal coach) began her 7 week TeleSeminar a couple days ago- smack dab in the middle of my despair. I happened to be online when I got the email alert that the session was about to begin and thought "Oh hey! She's on. Lemme listen in for a bit" The topic was on "Ultimate Self Expression", and I got all the answers to the questions that were burning me in my desolate state.
The more authentic you are to yourself, the more grounded you become. I was feeling like shit basically because I was feeding that monster inside of me that does actually doubt that I am good at what I do. I was neglecting to properly nourish myself with the assurances of my reputation. I want to be like those amazing, magnetic women that enter a room and everyone takes notice. What makes them stand out? While most of us look to others or other places for inspiration and ideas, these women look to themselves! They are their own source of Beauty, Power and Magic. They don't look to others for permission or acceptance. They know who they are and what they want out of life. "They are madly in love with themselves" as Sacha puts it. I wasn't really giving myself that sort of attention. I was basing my self worth on what this woman thought of me. She and I don't even share the same taste, so why was I letting her opinion of me impact me so much? Ah. We all have our silly moments.
Sometimes we do things just for acceptance, but unless we give out of desire, we will never be giving enough. We can only share of ourselves from a place of abundance. Sacha says that "Self expression and aliveness are infectious". When we have the audacity to "Swing out" and act against our fears and what people might think, we actually inspire others to feel more comfortable to do the same. So I'm swinging out. I'm doing me. We're often shy to admit it, but there is nothing wrong with professing that we love who we are! I'm great. I'm talented, hard-working, outspoken, friendly and fun- And more so than the "I hate Monday" memes, THAT is something worth sharing.
We post all these humorous quotes about people feeling beat up or let down, and we laugh, because we relate and the irony is just plain funny. My Facebook NewsFeed is ALWAYS riddled with "I hate Monday" jokes or "People are annoying" satire. And.. most of the time I tend to agree with the cynicism. And I click the "Share" button. I literally share my bitterness. Misery does love its company.
Recently I have been caught in one hell of a rut. I've been a banshee to my boyfriend, and been unavailable to my family, because I felt sad. I am a people-pleaser. I need to do everything right, and for everyone to like it. Too bad for me, I was challenged. I was working for someone who I could not make happy. I was beyond frustrated. I would grit my teeth and smile despite the many shut-downs and disrespectful dismissals. Even though I feel like I bent over and compromised my own creativity and who I am just to suit her requests, she could not be satisfied. When I decided to resign, she called me a failure.
Now, I don't think I'm a failure, but I let her get to me.. for a minute.
Now this is magic: Sacha Lalla, (my dear friend and personal coach) began her 7 week TeleSeminar a couple days ago- smack dab in the middle of my despair. I happened to be online when I got the email alert that the session was about to begin and thought "Oh hey! She's on. Lemme listen in for a bit" The topic was on "Ultimate Self Expression", and I got all the answers to the questions that were burning me in my desolate state.
The more authentic you are to yourself, the more grounded you become. I was feeling like shit basically because I was feeding that monster inside of me that does actually doubt that I am good at what I do. I was neglecting to properly nourish myself with the assurances of my reputation. I want to be like those amazing, magnetic women that enter a room and everyone takes notice. What makes them stand out? While most of us look to others or other places for inspiration and ideas, these women look to themselves! They are their own source of Beauty, Power and Magic. They don't look to others for permission or acceptance. They know who they are and what they want out of life. "They are madly in love with themselves" as Sacha puts it. I wasn't really giving myself that sort of attention. I was basing my self worth on what this woman thought of me. She and I don't even share the same taste, so why was I letting her opinion of me impact me so much? Ah. We all have our silly moments.
Sometimes we do things just for acceptance, but unless we give out of desire, we will never be giving enough. We can only share of ourselves from a place of abundance. Sacha says that "Self expression and aliveness are infectious". When we have the audacity to "Swing out" and act against our fears and what people might think, we actually inspire others to feel more comfortable to do the same. So I'm swinging out. I'm doing me. We're often shy to admit it, but there is nothing wrong with professing that we love who we are! I'm great. I'm talented, hard-working, outspoken, friendly and fun- And more so than the "I hate Monday" memes, THAT is something worth sharing.
If you would like to meet Sacha in person, she will actually be in Trinidad to lead the "Beauty, Power and Magic" workshop in April.
Click Here for details! http://www.facebook.com/BeautyPowerMagic?ref=hl
Friday 15 February 2013
Staycation
I have been working overtime! For over 3 years now, I have been constantly dedicated to making a name for myself in Trinidad's fashion industry. Coming from a place where it's all about who you know, and not what you know, provides a special challenge, especially when you don't know anyone, and no one knows you!
I'll say that I have been doing pretty well for myself. In these three short years I have accomplished quite a bit of formal fashion knowledge from 2 different schools, I interned for an amazing Stylist and mentor, I got the chance to meet and work with some of the most influential names in the industry, started my blogs and led them to a sizable group of followers, I'm organizing my second Women's beauty and Empowerment event, I'm fashion editor for an upcoming magazine, recently built www.nomorefashionvictims.com.... I really have been going at it strongly for a while. I forget to acknowledge the tremendous efforts and achievements, and like a true catastrophizer (thank you Sacha Lalla for my new favourite word) all I could think about is how much more I need to do and how little I'm being recognized.
If this is you- a person who is never satisfied - perhaps you are like me, and need a change in perspective. I never let anything rest. I lose sleep over every task, I only have the finish line in my mind, and I never stop to just breathe and give myself a pat on the back. So I'm going to take some valued advice from a friend, and take a few days off, to pamper and reward myself for a job well done. It need not be a job completed to deserve applause. The road is long, and one should take a pit stop every now and again to switch off and re-fuel.
Here are some ideas for a little time alone:
1. Spa Day! My favourite spa in Trinidad is the La Vita Day spa, (shown in the picture to the left) which is located at the ground floor of the Bhp Billiton building next to Movietowne. After a massage they give you 15 mins in an amazing steam shower. I think I prefer the steam shower more than the massage. Super relaxing.
If I do decide on a Spa day, I think I might give the Hyatt a try this time though. Even though the price is exorbitant, a spa visit gives you access to the pool. Now that is a nice way to finish off a day of pampering! A little dip and a cocktail.... mmmhmmm
2. Hotel Sleepover I expect that after Carnival and into Spring, hotels in the Caribbean should be begging for visitors. I have membership to Hilton's Premium Club which gives me specials on rooms, restaurant, etc. I have had a couple negative experiences with Hilton for customer service in the past, so I won't risk going there to upset myself on my stress-free escapade. However, staying overnight, getting some room-service and taking in a view are all nice options for a staycation.
3. Beach Not only is being at the beach the most relaxing thing you can do, but living on an island gives so many opportunities for an exotic experience without having to jump on a plane! There are several beach side properties you can rent- I've been to Mt. Plaisir at Grande Riviere, and woke up to turtles hatching and making their way to the water! Even without over nighting, it's fun to drive around and find unpopular bays that are untouched by commercialisation.
4. Picnic In highschool, a bunch of my girlfriends and I got together for a great picnic at the Botanical Gardens, after a day at the zoo. Neither the gardens nor the zoo is too tempting these days because of crime and lack of maintenance, but I'm sure there are other places that would be beautiful.
If you have any suggestions do send them my way! I plan to take my days off next week!
I'll say that I have been doing pretty well for myself. In these three short years I have accomplished quite a bit of formal fashion knowledge from 2 different schools, I interned for an amazing Stylist and mentor, I got the chance to meet and work with some of the most influential names in the industry, started my blogs and led them to a sizable group of followers, I'm organizing my second Women's beauty and Empowerment event, I'm fashion editor for an upcoming magazine, recently built www.nomorefashionvictims.com.... I really have been going at it strongly for a while. I forget to acknowledge the tremendous efforts and achievements, and like a true catastrophizer (thank you Sacha Lalla for my new favourite word) all I could think about is how much more I need to do and how little I'm being recognized.
If this is you- a person who is never satisfied - perhaps you are like me, and need a change in perspective. I never let anything rest. I lose sleep over every task, I only have the finish line in my mind, and I never stop to just breathe and give myself a pat on the back. So I'm going to take some valued advice from a friend, and take a few days off, to pamper and reward myself for a job well done. It need not be a job completed to deserve applause. The road is long, and one should take a pit stop every now and again to switch off and re-fuel.
Here are some ideas for a little time alone:
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If I do decide on a Spa day, I think I might give the Hyatt a try this time though. Even though the price is exorbitant, a spa visit gives you access to the pool. Now that is a nice way to finish off a day of pampering! A little dip and a cocktail.... mmmhmmm
2. Hotel Sleepover I expect that after Carnival and into Spring, hotels in the Caribbean should be begging for visitors. I have membership to Hilton's Premium Club which gives me specials on rooms, restaurant, etc. I have had a couple negative experiences with Hilton for customer service in the past, so I won't risk going there to upset myself on my stress-free escapade. However, staying overnight, getting some room-service and taking in a view are all nice options for a staycation.
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| The pool at the Hyatt Regency, Trinidad |
4. Picnic In highschool, a bunch of my girlfriends and I got together for a great picnic at the Botanical Gardens, after a day at the zoo. Neither the gardens nor the zoo is too tempting these days because of crime and lack of maintenance, but I'm sure there are other places that would be beautiful.
If you have any suggestions do send them my way! I plan to take my days off next week!
Sunday 20 January 2013
Power Colour
Too much of a good thing can be even greater.
When it comes to that colour that makes your feel fab in all meanings of the word- go for it! Wear it every chance you get! Revel in the compliments about your glow.
Your power colour is one that makes you feel confident and bright. It suits your natural colouring in terms of temperature and tone (cool/dark and deep/medium/light). It can have a story, as many colours are associated with different sentiments, for instance, Blue is a colour inspiring calm and trust. Orange is a colour of lust, while white is one of purity and Purple is one of royalty. You can of course give your own meaning to your power colour by making it your own. I love yellow. It is a colour that can be associated with being aloof, but when I wear yellow I want it to mean that I am bold and confident. I am a risk taker and I don't care about the haters.
A great way to maximise you power colour is to incorporate it into a monochromatic look. This is where you assemble garments of similar hues but differing tones into one outfit, head to toe. Bonus You may appear taller and leaner. It's different from being matchy- matchy because you will be using bold pieces. We're not talking about pairing a pink plastic belt with pink rubber flip flops and a pink woogie. I'm talking about pairing a mauve tailored blazer with a fuchia silk tunic, a pair of bright burgundy peg legged trousers and some rosy blush suede pumps. See the difference? I'm including some pictures of great monochromatic looks.
When it comes to that colour that makes your feel fab in all meanings of the word- go for it! Wear it every chance you get! Revel in the compliments about your glow.
Your power colour is one that makes you feel confident and bright. It suits your natural colouring in terms of temperature and tone (cool/dark and deep/medium/light). It can have a story, as many colours are associated with different sentiments, for instance, Blue is a colour inspiring calm and trust. Orange is a colour of lust, while white is one of purity and Purple is one of royalty. You can of course give your own meaning to your power colour by making it your own. I love yellow. It is a colour that can be associated with being aloof, but when I wear yellow I want it to mean that I am bold and confident. I am a risk taker and I don't care about the haters.
A great way to maximise you power colour is to incorporate it into a monochromatic look. This is where you assemble garments of similar hues but differing tones into one outfit, head to toe. Bonus You may appear taller and leaner. It's different from being matchy- matchy because you will be using bold pieces. We're not talking about pairing a pink plastic belt with pink rubber flip flops and a pink woogie. I'm talking about pairing a mauve tailored blazer with a fuchia silk tunic, a pair of bright burgundy peg legged trousers and some rosy blush suede pumps. See the difference? I'm including some pictures of great monochromatic looks.
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| SS2013 Runways |
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| Fall 2011 |
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| www.girlsguideto.com |
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| www.six2eleven.net |
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| www.theavenue.blogspot.com |
Thursday 3 January 2013
Are you Hiding in your clothes?
It happens to us all- we put on a little bit of weight, our muffin tops peep out and we dive into immediate panic! For a lot of women, our mid-section gives us the most anxiety! Throw in some flabby arms and thunder thighs and we just want to crawl into a cave! So we do- into a cave of fabric!
That's our second mistake- oversized clothes that swallow us whole. The first mistake is that we zoned into the negatives and blew up this idea in our heads that we have lost all control and we are FAT! Yes, I said it- Fat. I'm not going to tell you you're not fat- because I am that woman- I am the woman who whines about my weight and despite my friends' encouraging words and compliments- I still call myself the F-word. Shame on me. If you call yourself a name, that's how you are going to see yourself. Instead of "fat" and "mampie" (my fave), try "Fab" or "Radiant"! You will start to look past the obstacle of a couple pounds, and recognize the dazzling smile that your weight cannot affect, or the Pantene-Ad hair! You will start to notice that all along you have had creamy skin that people must envy! Or round perky breasts like no other!
So if you have all this beauty to show off, why are you hiding in XXL tents? A common misconception is that flowy fabric can conceal all. WRONG! Think about the silhouette you are creating with these pieces. What you want to do rather than hide, is camouflage. The idea you want to achieve when styling yourself, is that your strong points are highlighted and the parts that you aren't too excited about, are thoughtfully camouflaged. It's all about drawing the onlooker's eyes to where you want them.
So if your tummy is ever-expanding but you have great legs and a flawless decolletage, stick with shorter skirts (the hem must hit you at the slimmest part of your leg. This is usually a couple inches above the knee) and open necklines. Dress up your face with eye-catching earrings and va-va-voom hair. Camouflage your midsection by wearing sturdier fabrics that don't pull or squeeze around your belly. Every line and crease is a flag saying "look over here!" Consider Peplum tops that accentuate a defined waist and cover the pooch. Go for monchromatic looks, where there is no break up of colour that highlights any area on your torso.
There are countless tips and tricks to camouflage what you don't love about yourself (yet). What you need to do firstly, is pin- point every damn detail that makes you uniquely gorgeous, and show it off!
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| Jessica Simpson can't hide! This jumbo sweater makes her even more conspicuous! |
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| Camouflage Art by Emma Hack |
So if you have all this beauty to show off, why are you hiding in XXL tents? A common misconception is that flowy fabric can conceal all. WRONG! Think about the silhouette you are creating with these pieces. What you want to do rather than hide, is camouflage. The idea you want to achieve when styling yourself, is that your strong points are highlighted and the parts that you aren't too excited about, are thoughtfully camouflaged. It's all about drawing the onlooker's eyes to where you want them.
So if your tummy is ever-expanding but you have great legs and a flawless decolletage, stick with shorter skirts (the hem must hit you at the slimmest part of your leg. This is usually a couple inches above the knee) and open necklines. Dress up your face with eye-catching earrings and va-va-voom hair. Camouflage your midsection by wearing sturdier fabrics that don't pull or squeeze around your belly. Every line and crease is a flag saying "look over here!" Consider Peplum tops that accentuate a defined waist and cover the pooch. Go for monchromatic looks, where there is no break up of colour that highlights any area on your torso.
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| Wrap dresses that tie at the smallest part of you are wonderful when camouflaging and emphasizing |
There are countless tips and tricks to camouflage what you don't love about yourself (yet). What you need to do firstly, is pin- point every damn detail that makes you uniquely gorgeous, and show it off!
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